Roe: Truly the book is one of the best things we have ever done, as well as one of the most challenging. The hours, days, weeks and even months we have spent discussing, developing, debating, and creating have brought us to new levels of self-awareness and closeness. But, there were times when it also put a tremendous strain on us because as we sacrificed so much in terms of personal time and activities.
I don’t think either one of us could have accomplished this on our own. Oh, we probably could have written a book by ourselves, but it wouldn’t have the depth and emotional qualities that we have been able to add as a team. And, at least as challenging as it has been at times, we have always been in it together. Supporting each other, leading each other when we needed it and loving the new paths we are forging together.
Don: Well I know why so few books are written jointly by spouses. (Laughter)
For most couples, divorce might be the end result. I do mean this somewhat jokingly. For us, it was a tremendous experience. The process of writing the book pushed our relationship to new levels. It has been a tremendous experience, absolutely one of the best of our marriage. This is not to say that it was easy. There were many times that the effort required tested us. The end result was never in doubt. I don’t want to give any couple the impression that they should just start writing together. For some couples it will be magical. For others, well, it will be better to find a different project to tackle together.